MARRIAGE

Marriage is a bond where new relationships are developed and new beginnings begin. Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, for a parent, child, or friend. In both poems, “Conjoined” by Judith Minty and “A Valediction; Forbidding Mourning” by John Donne talk about the nature of a “relationship.” In Minty’s poem, “Conjoined,” she shows us how a couple in a marriage can be together but not be together as one because they are lacking communication and connection with one another. Where as in Donne’s poem, the author talks about love being a special bond that can last through out a lifetime and continues even after death. Through the use of diction and similes both authors are able to bring their point across.
Love can be described as well as sometimes shown in many ways, but to Donne it is a phrase where a couple must go through test and time apart from each other but not show a sign of grief. For example, “As Viruous men pass mildly away, And whisper to their souls to go, Whilst some of their sad friends do say The breath goes now, and some say, No; So let us melt, and make no noise, No tear-floods, nor sigh-tempests move, Twere profanation of our joys To tell the laity our love” (Donne). In this simile, two lovers are saying their farewells to each other but they don’t show any sign of sadness or any other emotion. They believe that they are strong and can get through anything together. Although they are shown to be miles and miles apart the author describes that they are together in the spiritual world and will continue to be together forever. Death does not do them apart, this is what the simile is trying to convey. Love is more than physical attraction with another individual but a deeper bond that keeps two people together even when they are away from one other. For example, “Dull sublunary lovers’ love (Whose soul is sense) cannot admit Absence, because it doth remove Those things which elemented it (Donne). The author talks about “absence” and how an individual does not forget about their loved ones although they are far apart from each other. If a couple only have a physical bond it is not "as special" of a connection, where as if a couple do share that "special bond/connection" they can relate and feel each other without physical being present by their partners side. Futher more,“spiritual love” is when two people love each other very much they do not need to be together every single moment in order to be satisfied with one another because they possess that special connection, like Mr. D said in our class discussion.
However in the “Conjoined” poem the author uses many examples to convey her point. For example, she compares a couple to “ An accident, like the two-headed calf rooted in one body, fighting to suck at its mother’s teats; or like those other freaks, Chang and Eng, twins joined at the chest by skin and muscle, doomed to live, even make love, together for sixty years (Donne). Not only does this stanza put a very vivid picture in one’s mind but also discusses the view points of a man and women. Being “Conjoined” can refer to a positive and negative thing. It can be negative because an individual(s) can be stuck with a person and not have that "special connection", “like the two-headed calf,” they fight consistently. This can be a positive thing because the individual(s) have to work with each other and be on the same page in order to make everything work out. But most importantly to make their relationship successful. In the poem the use of diction helps the author show the ups and downs in a marriage. Also the use of some harsh words to describe a husband and wife. For example, grief, sadness, or an argument(s) in a couple is referred to as “monster;”“Two-headed calf,” this refers to the fights in a relationship; “freaks,” shows us an understanding how all relationships are different and unique. “Conjoined” is about a marriage where two couples are forced to be together and constantly fighting and are unhappy with each other. :(
Marriage is a legal joining of two people; a union. It is an amazing, special bond between two people and their families. Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection which last will continue on even after death, eternally. In both poems, “Conjoined” by Judith Minty and “A Valediction; Forbidding Mourning” by John Donne; the author uses figurative language such as diction and simile to talk about “marriage” as well as to bring their point across. Donne conveys that love can be eternal, spiritually bond where as Minty describes it to be a painful bond in which an everything is not always what you want it to be, it can be forced. Both authors convey their messages through the use of similes and diction. :) :) :)